Saturday, December 29, 2007

Another LID anniversary....


Here we go again. There isn't much to write each month. Trying to stay optimistic, empathising with fellow adopters, and keeping busy.
Not feeling very good with details lately, I sent 50 holiday cards with the wrong adoption blog address. Luckily it didn't take them to something nasty. Just nowhere. Now do I send a postcard with the right address as a follow-up?

I did buy an ornament (see below) but didn't take it out of the box- I might end up sending it to someone who actually goes through with the wait.

We are in the mist of updating our home study. Just had some doctors appointments & our police reports are cleared. There is some paperwork to file with our gov but it isn't as much as the first time. We will wait for another appointment time to be fingerprinted again.

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

Lessons


Hard to post lately. I use this blog for more factual or information for others.
The emotions are still there. Overly controlled on this blog but as I wrote my holiday letters last night- it was hard to update others with "still waiting to adopt."
My dream world was going to have her in our family pictures this year & to welcome her and introduce her to the Christmas card community of friends & family that we have.
Sigh...
I recently watched Evan Almighty with the family & a great friend. I am intrigued and think about a special quote in it lately.
The comment is coming from "God" (Morgan Freeman) to Evan (Steve Carrell)
"If you ask God for courage, does he give you courage or does he give you the opportunity to be courageous?"
So I am going to take this a few steps further -
If you ask God for patience, does he give you patience or does he give you the opportunity to be patient?
If you ask God for strength, does he give you strength or does he give you the opportunity to be strong?


I am trying to learn & grow from these opportunites...

Friday, November 30, 2007

14 LID anniversary



Yeah! We are out of the review room and moving down the hall to the match room but the cart our paperwork is on is in a HUMONGOUS back up line.

Yesterday was our official 14th anniversary. Some people like to celebrate anniversaries - I would like to celebrate the GOTCHA day instead.

Friday, November 23, 2007

More Math

This information came from another site but they explain some of the math.

Using this information to calculate the number of dossiers ahead of us Sept 2006ers:
as of October 2007 30000 dossiers at CCAA
12600 dossiers for October 2006 - April 2007 if you use 1800 dossiers filed on avererage for those months
3000 dossiers for May 2007 - October 2007 (if you use 500 dossiers files on average for those months)
30000 - (12600 + 3000) = 14,400 dossiers ahead of us
with 7000 referals a year or (7000 / 12= 583 referrals /month)
and 100 files closed per month
14,400 / 683 = 21 months or August 2009.
That would put us at a total wait of about 35 months.


While my thoughts are obvious on this- there is hope for something to change. I guess I will keep up the faith.

We are currently renewing our paperwork with the US gov. We are granted one FREE extension. After our paperwork expires the second time- I believe we will drop out.

Monday, October 29, 2007

13th...

Well, with mixed emotions it is our 13th month LID ( ie waiting). 13 is good because we are still moving forward. Yep, time has NOT stood still for this ghastly wait.

When we started our paperwork in March 2006, the wait was projected to be about a year to 15 months. So I guess technically we are still in that time frame. Unrealistic to think it could happen so in Dec. I can probably lay it out then.

So another step forward, moving up in file-ville. Happy LID to my fellow line mates.

Tuesday, October 2, 2007

Referrals for September

I don't pretend to understand the universe - it's much bigger than I am
Albert Einstein

They have confirmation of referrals through Nov. 30th 2005. The cutoff is not set but doesn't look good according to the rumors. We don't know if Dec.1st - 5th is in or not.

People with Chinese heritage have been expedited through Aug 2006. That is very good news that children are being placed.

Congrats to all of you that see the light at the end of this long tunnel now. This last month was an emotionally rough one.

Saturday, September 29, 2007

It's been 12!

It has been 12 months that our paperwork has been logged in China. I tried not to think (obsess) about it too much.

My feelings were of mixed emotions. Glad to get through a big milestone but then WHY does it have to be this long?

To be the eternal optimist (which is always challenged) I went to the closet with gifts from friends & family for our China girl. It is packed! see below!
She is blessed and probably not even born yet - this chick has more "stuff" than most children--- her brothers were not so well gifted this early:) Yeah, that's the way it should be for our Asian princess anyway.


I have put together a little rhyme for this occasion.SUNG to 12 days of Christmas.



On the 1st month of LID china girl rec'd...
One lady bug toy.

On the 2nd month of LID china girl rec'd...
Two china dolls and

On the 3rd month of LID china girl rec'd...
Three pairs of boots and

On the 4th month of LID china girl rec'd...
Four special blankets and

On the 5th month of LID china girl rec'd...
Five rubber duckies and

On the 6th month of LID china girl rec'd...
Six golden treasures and

On the 7th month of LID china girl rec'd...
Seven dress shoes and

On the 8th month of LID china girl rec'd...
Eight cute dresses and

On the 9th month of LID china girl rec'd...
Ninth special books and

On the 10th month of LID china girl rec'd...
Ten quilt squares and

On the 11th month of LID china girl rec'd...
Eleven lucky dragon flies and

On the 12th month of LID china girl rec'd...
Twelve little socks and

* ok.. they didn't all actually come in that month but you get the idea- she is loaded! Now all we need is HER!

Thursday, September 27, 2007

Outta there!

AUGUST is Outta there! Congrats folks! That was fast- good signs? Anyone see a dragon fly?

September LID is next.
Please no phone calls....


The CCAA has finished
the review of the
adoption application
documents registered
with our office before
August 31, 2006.
The CCAA has finished
the placement of children
for the families whose
adoption application
documents were
registered with our
office before
November 25, 2005.

Monday, September 10, 2007

Fundraiser

This past weekend we were a part of a fundraiser. Called: An Afternoon at the Museum: a Kid's view.

The kids from 5 families worked on some type of research through the summer to exhibit. There was a cafe, silent auction and art work on display. We were even lucky enough to have a firetruck visit for an hour.
The kids did the planning through a series of meeting over the summer. The kids range in age from 10-5yrs. The kids donated the money raised to Habitat for Humanity and Love without Boundaires. They raised $300. We are so porud of them. It was a long day too.



This is Brett with his Hockey display.



This is Garrett with his animal facts and tree frog display.



Here is the display for the donations.

Tuesday, September 4, 2007

Dang Nebit!


This is probably the nicest way I can state how upset we are that the latest news is that there were only 4 days LID referrals.
To explain for those not in this twisted mess what just happened is that the Chinese government agency took the whole month of Aug. to move 4 days of LID paperwork. The last 3 referral trends were 7 days. Now it is lower.
When we signed on there was about 3 weeks of referral dates for each calendar month. It has been getting progressively slower- which means - the wait for us is LONGER.
Current predictions for the BEST case scenario from NOW is 2 years for us to recieve a referal. Why this is happening is not clear- not easy to give ONE reason.
We need a miracle that this is not the trend.

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

11th month LID anniversary!



It has been ELEVEN months that our paperwork has been in China.
So what is so special about eleven? A little Internet research shows...

1. Schoolhouse Rock. Who doesn't remember fondly the educational musical vignettes that used to be shown between our favourite cartoons on Saturday morning? The Good Eleven was a segment of the Multiplication Rock series.

2. A rocket must travel at over 11km per second to escape the Earth's gravity.

3. According to Numerology, 11 possesses the qualities of intuition, patience, honesty, sensitivity, and spirituality, and idealism.

4. Eleven, 11 lettered words.
1. Maintenance
2. Justifiable
3. Foolishness
4. Truehearted
5. Documentary
6. Foretelling
7. Girlfriends
8. Knucklehead
9. Summerhouse
10. Tranquility
11. Yesteryears

5. The symbol for the 11th anniversary is STEEL.

6. The 11th president of the United States was James Polk.

7. Eleven Pipers Piping, from 12 Days Of Christmas, would cost $2,053.

8. 11 is the atomic number of sodium.

9. The 11th moon of Jupiter is called Himalia

10. In Astrology, the 11th house is of Ideals, Friends and Allies

11. Apollo 11 was the first mission to the moon. July, 1969.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007

Mexico?

My mother has retired to Mexico- near Lake Chapula. She told me last night on the phone that a group of Irish people came in a restaurant with their newly adopted Mexican babies. She said they were beautiful.

Does anyone know why we don't hear of adopting from Mexico in US? Is is because of the Haugue treaty? I wish I was there to ask a thousand questions.
Looks like I have ANOTHER project to work on.

Tuesday, August 7, 2007

Anniversary clarification

Sorry to be misleading with the photo. We are into our 11th anniversary. The picture was to show cloud "nine". The ticker shows our LID. We actually starting making calls and signing up in March 2006.
We decided that we will start our renewal process once. We will probably pull out if we have to do a third time. I guess we are looking for an end date- like most of you. I need to plan ahead. I am always a "what-if?" person.

Friday, August 3, 2007

Referrals for July


COngrats to all those people who received referrals with LID Nov 14 - 21st 2005. The children are precious. I love referral time - it shows that matches are being made and I can take my next step in line forward. Happy cloud Nine!

Wednesday, August 1, 2007

Just a joke...



I have friends that travel to China for work.
They ask me "Do you want something while I am there?"
My response is always "My daughter!"

Do you think she could fit in their suitcase?
Would they notice one less orphaned girl?
Do you think by writing this I will be on the hold list during the review process?

Update: Rumors tend to show only another week of referrals for the month of July. I am praying that the Nov LID group is just enormous (bless you all and the agony of week by week) and that this is NOT the trend. March LID 2006 seems big too. We are Sept 29 LID so I can only IMAGINE the strain of week by week. Let's hope I don't have to experience it. Argh.

Saturday, July 28, 2007

All quiet ....

It is quiet on the China adoption homefront. Always rumors but this is where the speculation is highest.

I was in a children's store this week and saw a lady with a little dark haired girl. I got bold and asked the lady how old her daughter was? She thought I was asking for the size of clothes. I mentioned these were for someone else and threw in the word "LID" to show a connection. Her daughter is no more than 3 yrs from Indonesia. Very cute. She had to go to the orphange 3 times and had to leave the country each time. She was able to stay in Russia for 2 months with her son.

Everyone has a story. Each adoption is unique in its own way.

Tuesday, July 17, 2007

Still waiting



Still waiting in line... I was disappointed to see from my agency that only 19 children were referred in the last batch from Nov. 7 -14th.

But I did get to see a real referral from a real couple this past weekend. She was lovely. I choked up too. I couldn't help but feel like there will be a day for us too. They waited for 20 months.
So I will just stay in my place in line-

I am enjoying meeting the people around our LID. Some people are going for their first adoption, some this is their second! I cannot imagine doing this again.

I do appreciate the strong support group- especially from those that have done this before. Each person has a unique perspective on this process.



Actually this picture is misleading since most people can SEE the end...

Sunday, July 8, 2007

Riding Tandem


Congratulations & warm wishes to those that have received referrals this week. Good luck packing and travel.
I am inspired to write that we will get there too.

My post is that we are on a tandem ride. To just say that "the adoption journey is quite the experience" - is an understatement. The waiting process is long and getting longer. Some days you hear good news - other days not so good and most of the time - you hear nothing...

Sometimes I need to find someone else to pedal on this bike for a while. I read others blogs, find adoption stories or see a video that offers some peace and hope. Other times we are working together- sharing ideas and dreams. Today, I checked out all the new referrals on RQ and I feel like pedaling. So sit back if you need- I've got today covered.

Thursday, July 5, 2007

Adoption Update

The latest information is that the next set of referrals are in the mail. The LID that are to be matched are from Nov. 7 - 14th 2005. It seems small but Nov has a large group of people with LID. March 2006 will be large too but hopefully we will see some previous trends in double digit matching soon.

There are 319 more LIDs before us to go. This number came by taking the number of days ahead of our LID 9-29-07 and adding them together:
16 (Nov 2005)+
31 (Dec 2005)+
31 (Jan 2006)+
28 (Feb 2006)+
31 (March 2006)+
30 (April 2006)+
31 (May 2006)+
30 (June 2006)+
31 (July 2006)+
31 (Aug 2006)+
29 (Sept. 2006)
-----------------
319 Days

This number represents all days - there are days included that don't have any LIDs due to holiday or weekend. So we (in the adoption community) hope for a larger span of LID to move us closer to our referral. It is like standing in line.

CCAA (the government agency that has the paperwork) has finished with May 2006 LIDs in the review room. The review room is another double check for making sure all the paperwork is in order and clear for the match room. If there is a problem your adoption agency will be notified and help you correct, clarify or update. Getting out of the review room is a big step in the waiting process- it kind of let you know that that your file was handled and read in China.

Tuesday, July 3, 2007

Not really an update but...

"When you want to believe in something, you also have to believe in everything that's necessary for believing in it."
~ Ugo Betti


Nothing new on the latest adoption scene- they are getting close to another set of referrals and a TA group. Best wishes & prayers for those so close- I enjoy seeing all the referral pictures. Somehow it makes it more real.

Friday, June 29, 2007

Nine!


9- It has been nine months- LID anniversary.Here are some facts about the number nine. Some good, some well not helpful in the wait…

= 3 x 3
A square.

There are nine major planets in the solar system, Beethoven wrote nine symphonies, and a cat is said to have nine lives.

A polygon with nine angles and nine sides is called a nonagon.

In Chinese the word for the number nine is jiu. In French the word neuf means both nine and new. In German, the words for nine and new are neun and neu, and in Spanish, nueve and nuevo.

As you count and reach nine, you know you are about to make a new start.

Rounders and baseball are all played with teams of nine players.

A game of squash is won by scoring nine points.

Golf courses often have nine holes.

The expression to the nines means to the highest degree.

The game of skittles or ninepin bowling is many hundreds of years old. The pins are set up in a diamond formation and players throw the ball (or `cheese') at them. In the nineteenth century some American states passed laws banning the game because bets were often placed on it. But these laws were evaded by the simple ruse of adding a tenth pin. As a result tenpin bowling is now the far more popular game.

On cloud nine means happy, euphoric or `high'. The phrase came into use in the 1950s from a term used by the US Weather Bureau. For the meteorologists Cloud Nine is cumulo-nimbus cloud at a height of 10 km, which is high even by the standard of clouds.

Only about one ninth of the mass of an iceberg is visible above the water. Nearly all its bulk remains hidden beneath the surface.
The 9 of diamonds - the playing card - is sometimes called the Curse of Scotland.

Redivider with nine letters is the longest palindromic word in the English language. A palindromic word has the same sequence of letters backwards or forwards.

A nine days' wonder is something that creates a short-lived sensation.

Tuesday, June 26, 2007

Dreams


I like reading about others dreams, although I believe no one can completely interpret the dream but the person who experienced it.

I apologize for lack of details but this is what stayed in memory.

I did have a dream as the sun was rising about being at an adoption center- looked like a day care. I was hugged by a little girl - two/three years. She had black hair shoulder length hair and was named Katie Maggie. She never talked & I only talked with a childcare provider. Katie Maggie as a name wouldn't work since those are the names of my best friend's girls. But if we use the K & M we could name her KIM.
Then she seemed to dissolve into two children - one boy & one girl. Close in age but I thought this would be OK too. Like twins- I can handle it. Then I was getting around to go and had to find the two little boys Matt & Carlos that I was taking home. One was in a wheelchair. Again the thought two is OK.

So what does it mean?
We don't have a name for our daughter- no rush - it keeps changing. We have a top three list and Kimberly is one of them.
Matt & Carlos doesn't mean anything to me.

The child is older than 12 months and she walked toward me. I am not expecting my daughter to be able to walk yet.

Then the two children. One boy & one girl. It won't happen since we have only asked for one little girl.

The two boys at the end is really odd. First we are on a non special needs list (NSN), so why the wheelchair? Two boys and no girl is not what we are planning. We are going through process for the girl.

When I look back on this- the wheelchair wasn't the focus or the gender to me at the time. I was alone without my husband at an adoption center. No paperwork. No stress in any of it. The dream probably only lasted less than 10 minutes when you think about it.

Lately I am seeking what God has planned for me & my family. I second guess myself often so if I was getting a message it is hard to filter through all the other garbage floating around in my head.
"Two is OK" was what I sensed. Does that mean that don't wait for the third child? Or two is OK right NOW - be patient with the two you have.

Unfortunately the sense of peace while sleeping doesn't carry over into the day. Ideas?

Wednesday, June 20, 2007

Treasure Chest


One of my special memories is playing in my mother's jewelry box. My sister & I use to put on the costume necklaces and bracelets. There were favorite pieces and ones we would barter for because they sparkled the most. None of her "expensive" jewelry was in there but there was lots to play with. It was a favorite past time to be princesses all dressed up for the ball.

I am trying to build up a "costume" jewelry box for my daughter. Hopefully she'll let me play too. I go to the sale racks in stores looking for sparkly jewelry. I saw some big glittery rings today but they need to go down a little more in price. They would make a beautiful story about the ring with powers.

Also, it isn't easy to find the right jewelry box. I am looking for something particular. Not trendy or too fancy but a wooden box. I am going to go to some garage sales and maybe some antique stores. It is my quest for the perfect treasure chest.

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

Chinese Ducks


Thank you to my secret pal for these very cute rubber ducks. They go with the bath towel set very well. These arrived a month ago and I was trying to translate them before posting. But I need help translating the symbols. I believe they are the traditional style characters not simplified. I also think the back left one is happiness. If anyone wants to practice their Chinese symbol skills, please share! Thank you again secret pal - you are very creative!

Monday, June 11, 2007

New!

I am restructuring the blog - because I can! I have linked to a new blog just for the 100 Good Wishes quilt. So far I have one...only 99 more to go! Note the ticker at the top of the blog.

Second- I have also designed Cranium Cafe- aren't I such a geek? Well, this is for my ramblings. You know that movie with Mel Gibson - All Women Want- where he can hear into women's heads? My dH thinks that would be his personal nightmare to get into my head! It never stops - sooooo I am just calling my new blog a rambling - maybe a thought provoking place for those that I know want to "think" with me.
These can be accessed by the extensions on the right.

This blog will always be open for adoption news and general info.

Thursday, June 7, 2007

Celebrate





It's official - I am on summer break! It has been a really tough last two months with so much going on but I am looking forward to some R & R. I am working on my summer list of things to do with the boys. Stay tune for additions to this blog.

Also - Congrats to those that received their children matches this week! CCAA has matched children with those people with LID up through Nov. 7th. I went to some of the sites with the pictures posted- they are adorable and I get all choked up looking at them and hoping for our day. These families have waited about 19 months. It is predicted our wait will be longer. They have finished reviewing paperwork for March 2006 people.
My son & I did our best case scenario- of being matched in Nov 2008, possible scenario - March 2009 and worst case scenario of being matched Feb. 2010. Again, many factors are involved and change (see post - Factors for & Against)
Keep the prayers coming!

Tuesday, May 29, 2007

Anniversary


Comrades in waiting... another month down.
Eight months and still counting....

Thursday, May 17, 2007

thoughts


Pondering...

What do you do when you see an endangered animal eating an endangered plant?

If vegetarians eat vegetables what do humanitarians eat?

How can there be self-help groups?

(these came from my google home page tab -thoughts of the day)

Spring Flowers


The ground is breaking with flowers!

I took a trip to the Dow gardens. I took over 100 pictures. It was one of those beautiful days. The kids had digital cameras too and we each had different ways of looking at the same flower.

Wednesday, May 9, 2007

Special Photos


"Peek-A -Boo"
Anyone that knows me knows I love to take pictures. If you put all my photos together - it is like a flip book. I also take ALOT of photos. It is like a therapy for me. The weather has been getting nicer here so I ventured out to take some photos.

I call this one "Bad Hair Day"


Check out the tongue! "Cheese"

Wednesday, May 2, 2007

I am so Spoiled!


Look what my aunt made for our baby's room! I sent her the material and she made the bumper, crib ruffle, and basket liners! They are so beautiful! I cannot sew and actually a sew machine may be considered a weapon with me. I will be doomed to getting hurt for sure. My Aunt Dottie makes my boys' Halloween costumes- what ever concoction they come up with. It is never an easy to follow the pattern costume. I just love the home made stuff- they always seem better. I hope to enlist her to help make cute dresses for my daughter. Thank so much, Aunt Dottie! You are really terrific for doing this for me!

Saturday, April 28, 2007

Splish! Splash!



I belong to a secret pal exchange group for those of us waiting to travel to China. These people are from all over US & Canada. I received my first surprise package earlier this week. Isn't it cute! The theme was "bath". I love the trim colors. Whoever she is, thank you!

Thursday, April 26, 2007

Patience



Here is alittle self pep talk...

The strongest of all warriors are these two: Time and Patience.
– Leo Tolstoi

He that can have patience can have what he will.- Benjamin Franklin

Patience is power; with time and patience the mulberry leaf becomes silk.- A Chinese Proverb

The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg,
not by smashing it.

- Arnold H. Glasgow

Patience with others is Love, Patience with self is Hope, Patience with God is Faith.- Adel Bestavros

Thursday, March 29, 2007

Six month LID anniversary


Wahoo! six months under our belt...?? more to go!

Friday, March 16, 2007

The Slow Boat to China...


After ready some lengthy information provided by my agency and what other news sites say about Chinese Adoptions, Kurt & I have come up with a summary of "factors" beyond our control on our wait for a referral.
This is what we came up with:

Factors For

CCAA is working to persuade local officials to work with them and developing a relationship with them. This is provided through funding, education and supplies.

CCAA moved to a new building with more space. They may hire more people.

There are stricter requirements for incoming dossiers, so there won’t be as much of a build up in the future. Doesn’t really help many of us with our Dossier already there.


Factors against

Dramatic increase in Dossiers (foreign paperwork) –This is because the health of the children, acceptance of Asian adoptions, successful program stability & reliability and manageable wait time. CCAA took more dossiers than their past yearly quota in 2005, then they received many more than they could manage. This is probably the biggest cause for the slow down.

Hunan trafficking incident- A baby was brought to an orphanage and money was asked for the child. The Chinese government made example of these people including the director of the orphanage, so directors may not participate in reporting the orphans to CCAA if there is any uncertainty and the hassle since it was voluntary to participate.

Lack of motivation among officials- international adoption adds too much extra work on an already heavy work load. This is probably the other greatest reason.

Orphanages buildings and symbols of power – Overly large newer facilities need to maintain a certain number of kids or they can lose their jobs. The government has put a lot of money into the orphanages to improve them.

Impact of Economic success – Improved economics has lead to more domestic adoptions and less abandonment.Less orphans is a good sign for China, but this is minimal since the most of the country sides are still dealing with low economic issues.

Thursday, March 15, 2007




I read an article in TIME about how your brain can time travel. It was really interesting. I love writing which is new and leaves open possibilities. Anyhow, this article discussed how your brain is able to time travel. The brain is able to ignore our 3 dimensional space. This happens every time you relive or think about a memory. Your physical self/matter cannot leave this time space continuum but your brain does it frequently. You can go back in time to when you were small, or visit your favorite vacation spot, or speed ahead in time to the day we are finally off to China! It is such a neat concept. I will attest to lots of daydreaming errr I mean time traveling when spring comes!